"Do I Have to Visit the 'Sidaek Big House' During Chuseok?"... Netizens Buzz Over New Daughter-in-Law's Story

"Do I Have to Live in My Husband's Family Home and Stay with His Relatives?" A Newlywed's Complaint

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With Chuseok just three weeks away, a newlywed's story about struggling with whether to visit her husband's family’s main house during the holiday is drawing attention.

On the 26th, an online community 'Nate Pann' featured a post titled "Do you go to the husband's main house?" The author, A, who is experiencing her first Chuseok since marriage, began by saying, "I had no idea I was supposed to go to the husband's main house. Why do I have to go to the husband's main house?"

A explained, "My husband's paternal grandparents passed away early, so my father-in-law basically raised my husband. They say my husband should show filial piety to the husband's main house, but what does that have to do with me?" She added, "Why should I endure living at the husband's main house? It's so absurd that I am at a loss for words."

She complained, "My husband said he would come to his family’s house the day before Chuseok, stay overnight, then go to the main house early the next morning to pay respects at the ancestral graves, have lunch there, and then go to my parents' house," adding, "His family lives very far away. I'm already annoyed."

She continued, "Do people really go to the husband's main house every holiday and cook there? Am I just too naive? I thought once the children are married, you don’t have to go anymore." She also noted, "His family doesn’t even hold ancestral rites. The problem is that all the children of the husband's main house have married out, and I am the only daughter-in-law in the entire family."

A concluded, "I'm considering applying for a business trip then. If my parents heard about me living at the husband's main house, they would probably faint."

The post sparked mixed reactions among netizens. Some argued that there is no need to visit the husband's main house. They commented, "The one who received kindness is the father-in-law. The one who should repay it is the father-in-law, so why ask the daughter-in-law?" "Visiting the husband's main house is too much," "If the in-laws don’t value their daughter-in-law, relatives treat her like dirt. Don’t go," and "Going to both the main house and the in-laws’ house doesn’t make sense."

On the other hand, some said, "It’s understandable to visit on the first holiday; no need to be so harsh," "I recommend going just to greet them," "Usually, on the first holiday, you visit the highest elders of the other family to pay respects," and "If you just have lunch and leave, it seems fine."