Embarrassed by Parents Living in a 30-Year-Old Villa
Pretending to Live in an Apartment... How to Confess 고민
A working professional posted a concern on an online community about having lied to her fianc? about her home address.
On the 22nd, a post titled "I lied about my home address to my fianc?" was uploaded to an online community.
View of apartment complexes in downtown Seoul from Namsan, Seoul. Stock photo unrelated to the article. [Photo by Yonhap News]
The author, Ms. A, explained, "I have been dating my boyfriend for two years with marriage as the premise. We both come from middle-class families," adding, "It's difficult to go into detail, but from my boyfriend's perspective, considering my parents' occupations and my appearance, he probably thinks my family is much wealthier than his. I also expect that to be true."
She continued, "Since I studied abroad early on (attending a boarding school costing 60 million KRW per year) and then returned to Korea for university, I had many wealthy friends around me," and "People who know me seem to think my parents must be quite capable to support my long study abroad."
Ms. A revealed that she grew up without lacking anything, often receiving luxury brand gifts from her parents, and even received a car as a gift after becoming an adult.
The concern was about the location and condition of her family home. She explained, "My father is self-made and has no interest in real estate or financial investments," adding, "Despite owning assets, he still lives in a dilapidated villa he moved into 30 years ago without spending a single penny. He seems comfortable and has no intention of moving." She also mentioned, "This issue has caused many arguments between my parents."
She added, "I have been living on my own since university, and my rented place is actually better than my family home," noting, "The monthly rent exceeds 1.5 million KRW, and even now while working, my parents still give me money as an allowance."
The author shared, "Since high school, whenever I came back to Korea during vacations, I hid my home from my friends. I was embarrassed about my house every time I visited their homes," and "After graduation, when my boyfriend offered to take me home, I would ask him to drop me off at the apartment next door."
She said, "Now that I have promised to marry my boyfriend, I feel troubled about having lied about my home address early in our relationship," explaining, "I used to have him drop me off in a neighboring area with nicer houses, and I would get angry and hide the exact location when he asked." She continued, "I feel that hiding this while getting married is really not right, so I have to tell him. My father threatened me, asking if I want to ruin my daughter's marriage prospects, so we have decided to move next year." She added, "After hiding my home and lying for two years, he will surely lose affection for me. I am prepared to face a breakup."
The author expressed, "I am very worried about when and how to tell him about this lie."
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