Divorced Woman Paying Off Ex-Husband's 100 Million Won Debt: "Should I Tell My Remarriage Partner?"

A Woman Paying Off 100 Million Won Debt of Ex-Husband
Worries About Being Found Out by Current Boyfriend

A woman who is currently paying off 100 million won of her ex-husband’s debt is struggling with whether she should reveal this fact to her current boyfriend.

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On the 15th, a post titled "Should I confess my debt to my boyfriend I'm dating?" was uploaded on an online community. The author, Ms. A, who identified herself as a woman in her late 30s and a dolsing (returned single), began by saying, "I have been dating a dolsing man in his early 40s for half a year."

Ms. A said, "We ended up liking each other so much that we started talking about the future seriously," and added, "I have met my boyfriend’s parents, and fortunately, they liked me." Everything seemed to be going smoothly, but Ms. A had a secret worry. She had debt left over from her ex-husband. Ms. A said, "The debt exceeds 100 million won, and after barely paying it off every month, I live quite financially strained," and "I have not shown this to my boyfriend. He doesn’t know that I am struggling with this debt."

Ms. A revealed that her current boyfriend is a professional, saying, "My monthly income is about 3 million won, and my boyfriend’s monthly income is about 40 million won," and explained, "The reason for my boyfriend’s divorce was financial issues with his ex-wife. So he is sensitive about debt problems, and I didn’t want to embarrass him by telling him."

Ms. A confessed, "But lately, I’ve been worried that if my boyfriend finds out about this later, he might want to break up with me," and said, "I’m confused with many thoughts like whether I’m wasting time now, should I be honest and end it, or should I break up with another excuse." At the same time, she said, "My boyfriend is warm and a good person, so I don’t want to lose him," and added, "Even if I pay off all the debt, I think my assets will be zero at this age, so I feel like I should let go, but I love my boyfriend so much. I don’t know what to do," asking for advice.

Netizens who read this story responded negatively, saying things like, "If you marry like that, it’s a scam marriage," "From the other person’s perspective, paying off the ex-husband’s debt would naturally look bad," "Since the marriage hasn’t officially progressed yet, it’s better to be honest," "It would be more upsetting if he finds out later, so tell him beforehand," and "This kind of thing should have been revealed before dating."