"Boyfriend Acting as Single Mom's Female Friend's Dad... Is It Okay to Marry?"

Visiting the Pool with a Female Friend of 20 Years and Her Child
Lied to Girlfriend... "The Child Wanted to Go to the Pool"

A story has been shared about a woman struggling because of her boyfriend who is playing the role of a father to the child of a close female friend.

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On the 19th, a post titled "The Lie of My Boyfriend Whom I Was Considering Marrying" was uploaded on an online community, drawing attention. The author, A, who identified herself as a woman in her late 20s, began by saying, "I recently looked at my boyfriend's phone and opened Pandora's box."

A explained, "My boyfriend has a female friend he has known for twenty years, who is a single mom with a young son," and added, "After seeing their recent conversations, I found out he lied to me and took that friend and her son to a swimming pool." She continued, "When I confronted him about why he lied, he excused himself by saying, 'My friend is raising her baby alone, and the baby wanted to go to the swimming pool. Since the baby is older, she can't take him to the women's bath, so she asked me for help.'"

A, who cannot understand her boyfriend's behavior, said, "I feel sorry for the child, but I don't understand why my boyfriend has to act like a father," and added, "It sounds like he is occasionally willing to do such favors, and I don't like that. He even said they planned to stay overnight but ended up going just for the day because there was no room." She expressed, "I want to ask if I am lacking in understanding or immature," and asked, "Is it normal to experience this kind of conflict at least once while dating?" seeking advice.

Netizens who read the story responded with comments such as, "Lying is shameful," "Maybe that child is your boyfriend's," "If he's going to act like a father, ask him to do it after marriage," "The child might think your boyfriend is his dad," "The female friend who makes such requests to a man who has a girlfriend is shameless," and "If he behaves like this even after marriage, break up if you can't endure it."