Wife Dressed Up to Go to Church
Followed Her to Motel with Male Congregant
"I Made a Mistake After Connecting with Congregant," She Excuses
A story has been shared about a wife who was deeply involved in church but was found to be having an affair.
Recently, on a YouTube channel run by lawyer Yang Narae, the story of a man, Mr. A, who is suffering emotionally due to his wife's infidelity was introduced. According to the video, Mr. A, a lifelong believer, was introduced to his current wife by an acquaintance. Upon seeing his wife’s deep faith, he immediately decided to marry her. He recalled, "I thought that if she was so devoted to her faith and service, she would be excellent in family life as well."
However, the problem was that his wife spent too much time at church. Mr. A told her, "Aren't you spending too much time at church?" but she replied, "Now that the child is older and requires less attention, and I feel a bit empty lately, I want to focus more on my faith." Mr. A thought it was better that she was spending time at church rather than going elsewhere to drink or party, so he tried to understand her.
But at some point, his wife’s behavior before going to church started to seem suspicious. Previously, she dressed plainly and comfortably without paying much attention to makeup, but now she would do full makeup and dress up before going to church. According to Mr. A, she even paid a lot of attention to her appearance before attending early morning services.
Thinking that his wife might not actually be going to church, Mr. A followed her when she went to the evening service. What he witnessed shocked him. Less than ten minutes after entering the church, she came out the back door with a man and got into his car, heading to a motel. Mr. A recorded everything and then returned home. Later, when his wife came home, he confronted her with the evidence, asking, "Who have you been having an affair with and since when?" She admitted, "I made a mistake because I connected emotionally with a fellow churchgoer who attended the evening and early morning services." Mr. A asked for advice, saying, "I wonder if I should forgive my wife’s one-night mistake, and if I do, how should I respond to prevent this from happening again?"
"In groups with balanced gender ratios, the likelihood of affairs is higher"
In response, lawyer Yang said, "In groups where various people gather and the gender ratio is evenly balanced, the probability of affairs occurring is higher," adding, "I don’t think that just because a husband finds out about his spouse’s infidelity, divorce is always necessary." She continued, "If the spouse has committed infidelity but you want to forgive them at least once, it means you are not ready for divorce yet, so it is okay to forgive. No one has the right to blame the parties involved. If Mr. A has a strong desire to trust his wife, it would be good to trust her and make efforts to restore the family."
Netizens who saw the story responded with comments such as, "There really are many affairs in churches," "It’s easy to get close through faith," "That’s why there’s the term ‘church oppa’ (church brother)," "Those kinds of people are just a minority in church," "I don’t even want to say they’re fellow church members," "It’s because there are many Christians. Also, some are scared to criticize a few," and "Be careful of women who go to church."
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