Husband Says Mother Is His Joy and Says Nothing
Sends Lots of Food Without Asking Daughter-in-Law's Opinion
Netizens Divided Over the Story
The story of a daughter-in-law feeling exhausted due to her mother-in-law's strong pride in her cooking has sparked mixed reactions among netizens. On the 24th, an online community Nate Pann featured a post titled "I really hate and suffer from my mother-in-law's pride in her kimchi and side dishes." The author, A, began by saying, "I don't dislike my mother-in-law. But honestly, it's really hard and tiring."
A daughter-in-law who feels exhausted due to her mother-in-law's strong pride in food is receiving mixed reactions from netizens. Photo is not related to the specific content of the article. Getty Images
She continued, "If she asked whether I wanted some and gave me just a little, I wouldn't mind. But she sends or gives me ten times the amount of kimchi without asking. Even when I say there's no space in the fridge, she doesn't listen," adding, "There's nowhere to share it either. My husband says it's his mother's joy and doesn't say anything. It's an endless cycle of kimchi and pickled vegetables. I truly feel like I'm being tortured at meals." She sighed, saying, "Even when I try to pick up a side dish during meals, I'm scared. Every time I eat one, I have to listen to explanations and say it's delicious."
A shared anecdote revealed that when A said "It's salty" during a meal, she was scolded by her father-in-law. She asked netizens, "I feel like I'm going to get PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). Does anyone know how to solve this?"
Netizens had divided opinions on A's story. Some commented, "Just give all the side dishes and kimchi your mother-in-law makes to your husband," "Don't make new side dishes; just serve the ones your mother-in-law made, and if anyone complains, say 'It's my mother-in-law's joy. We can't help it,'" and "Only those who have endured such suffering for decades understand that feeling. At times like this, you have to speak up clearly."
On the other hand, some netizens said, "I wish I had a mother-in-law who made kimchi or food for me," "You only realize your in-laws' kindness after buying kimchi because you don't have any," and "Would you say this even if your birth mother gave it to you?" One netizen advised, "Ultimately, in such mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, how the husband communicates and mediates is most important," adding, "You should talk to your husband well to prevent bigger conflicts; if you keep it bottled up, it will turn into a bigger problem later."
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