"My Building Owner Boyfriend Has Weak Life Skills and Job Motivation... I'm Hesitant About Marriage"

"A Boyfriend Whose Job Is Being a Building Owner, Lackadaisical About Job Hunting...
He Values Responsibility, But Is It Okay to Marry Him?"

A building owner who consistently receives monthly rent or jeonse deposits. A story about a woman in her 20s honestly expressing hesitation about marrying her boyfriend whose job is 'building owner' has become a hot topic.

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On the 21st, a post titled "I am hesitant to marry my boyfriend whose job is building owner" was uploaded on an online community. The author, Ms. A, who identified herself as a woman in her late 20s, began by saying, "My boyfriend is two years older than me. We have been dating for about two years."

Ms. A said, "I had no complaints about my boyfriend being a job seeker. We shared hobbies and personalities well," but added, "The problem is that my boyfriend brought up marriage first, but it turned out he was not preparing for employment but trying to make being a building owner his profession," explaining the reason for her hesitation about marriage.

Ms. A, who met her boyfriend’s mother for the first time last month, said, "His mother was very cultured, and she told me, 'There is a building under your boyfriend’s name, and there is money coming from it,'" adding, "Knowing that doesn’t make me feel good; it makes me hesitate about marriage. I feel like my boyfriend is pretending to be a job seeker, and since he’s not desperate, he hasn’t been able to get a job for several years."

Ms. A said, "Looking at my parents and older brother, life doesn’t always go as planned, and there are big and small hardships. It seems difficult to dream about the future with someone who has never earned money on their own," and frankly shared, "Actually, the building under my boyfriend’s name is not money he earned himself; his parents just gifted it to him. My parents also worked hard to own buildings and received steady monthly rent, but they worked until retirement."

She continued, "Last week, I asked my boyfriend, 'Isn’t it hard preparing for a job?' but he spoke evasively. It seems he intends to make being a building owner his profession without thinking about employment," and said, "Although I haven’t lived long, I think practical life skills are important. Practical life skills include not only the amount of money earned but also the responsibility taken in work, whether serving in a restaurant or working in a factory." She also asked for opinions, saying, "I think practical life skills are very important even if one is somewhat poor, and I wonder if it is possible to have a married life with a boyfriend whose job is building owner."

Netizens who read the story responded with comments such as, "That’s a wise thought," "There is a difference between having and not having work experience," "Her thinking is healthier than typical 20-somethings these days," and "When you marry, you become the head of a family, and as Ms. A said, life doesn’t always go as planned, so it seems she needs to think a lot."

On the other hand, some netizens responded, "She’s been lucky," "If he’s a building owner, he must have a lot of incoming money, so I wouldn’t feel the need to get a job either," "The boyfriend seems to want to marry without considering conditions, but it would be scary if the girlfriend is thinking like this inside," and "It’s not that he’s not working, but that he can’t get a job."