58-Year-Old Divorced Woman: "Couldn't Remarry After 5 Years of Effort... I Wish Someone Would Just Take Me Away Like Bossam"

Opinions on Wearing Divorcee Ribbons and Divorcee-Only Clubs

To promote remarriage, there was even an opinion expressing a desire to revive the 'Bossam' system from the Joseon Dynasty marriage practices (a form of abduction marriage used for poor lower-class people who could not have formal marriages, widows who were not allowed to remarry, and to ward off evil for children of noble families).

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On the 16th, remarriage information company Only-U, in collaboration with marriage information company Bienarae, conducted a survey from the 8th to the 13th targeting 512 men and women nationwide who wished to remarry (256 men and 256 women each) via email and phone, asking, "If you have any ideas you have come up with as a last resort because remarriage is difficult, what would they be?" As a result, 33.2% of female respondents answered "Bossam system."

A 58-year-old woman who divorced due to her husband's abuse and has been exhausted after searching for a remarriage partner for over five years said, "I am tired of looking for a remarriage partner. I have met several people here and quite a few men introduced by acquaintances, but I am still single," adding, "It is a burden to keep meeting people without any promise of remarriage. I wish someone would just take me away through Bossam."

Female respondents also gave answers such as ▲wearing a ribbon indicating single status (28.1%) ▲broadcasts to find separated families (broadcasts to find remarriage partners, 22.7%) ▲clubs exclusively for singles (16.0%). Among male respondents, 34.4% answered "wearing a ribbon indicating single status." Following that were ▲clubs exclusively for singles (32.0%) ▲broadcasts to find separated families (25.0%) ▲Bossam system, etc.

Also, when asked "What is the biggest factor making remarriage difficult?" more than one in three male respondents (35.2%) cited "being only focused on receiving," while 36.7% of female respondents answered "the gap between expectations and reality."

Son Dong-gyu, CEO of Only-U, explained, "Remarriage is difficult for both men and women due to obstacles such as financial power, appearance, and children, as well as trauma and compensatory psychology from previous failed marriages. As a last resort, many come up with unrealistic ideas like the Bossam system from the Joseon Dynasty or suggest attaching ribbons indicating single status on the chest to distinguish remarriage candidates."