"Avoid Saying 'Back in My Day' During the Lunar New Year Holiday"

[Asia Economy Reporter Cho Hyun-ui] “Back in my day, we used to arrive the day before the ancestral rites, fry the pancakes, and prepare the ritual table?it was so exhausting. But these days, kids only think about themselves.”

The popular phrase used to mock the older generation, "Latte (back in my day)," is something everyone has probably heard at least once during holidays. While people want to rest during the holiday break, hearing such remarks from family and relatives can actually cause stress. During the Seollal holiday period, it is important to adopt an attitude of consideration that encourages rather than stresses one another.

Especially avoid such remarks toward nephews or nieces preparing for employment, working mom daughters-in-law juggling childcare and work, and grown unmarried children.

◆Words to be cautious about=“How’s your exam preparation going? The boy next door got accepted into a big company and went on a trip with his friends. You shouldn’t insist only on the civil service exam; you should get a job even at a small company and become independent.” (Uncle/Aunt to nephew/niece preparing for employment)

“Raising kids must be tough, right? You’ve been working for a while, and since the kids need their mom by their side at this stage, how about quitting your job?” (Parents-in-law to working mom daughter-in-law)

“Our wish is for you to get married and live happily. Starting this year, lower your standards a bit and actively look for someone to live with.” (Parents to unmarried child)

Instead, engage in conversations filled with praise and positive messages. To those preparing for employment, say, “It’s admirable to see you working hard during this difficult time,” and to children, “Thank you for growing up well.” Such words of comfort and hope will make the holiday happier.

Professor Yoon Je-yeon of the Education and Talent Development Office at Seoul National University Hospital said, “Words intended to express worry and concern about family members’ futures can actually cause greater stress.”

He added, “If you acknowledge family members’ efforts as they are and emotionally connect and support them through encouraging conversations, it will help them return to their daily lives after the holiday.”