Golf caddie and father having an affair for 20 years
Spent 100 million won on mistress using daughter's credit card
Went bankrupt and got cancer, then sought daughter
"Is it right to take care of him?" Daughter expresses her dilemma
A story has been shared about a woman who is struggling with whether to take care of her father, who abandoned his family after having an affair with a golf course caddie, was later abandoned by his mistress, and has now returned as a stage 3 cancer patient.
On the 25th, JTBC's 'Case Manager' introduced the story of a woman in her 40s, Ms. A, who is facing this dilemma. The informant, Ms. A, confessed that she found out about her father's affair when she went to check on him, as he was living separately from her mother due to his business.
Ms. A recalled, "A call came to my father's phone from an unknown number. When I checked the call history, I saw that he was calling this unsaved number more than once a day." She added, "Since the calls were automatically recorded, I listened to one and heard a woman say, 'I bought you some underwear, so change into it.'" After discovering the affair, Ms. A told her father, "I know everything, so end things with that woman." However, her father did not end the relationship with his mistress.
Ms. A confided this to one of her father's longtime friends and learned that her father had been having an affair for as long as 20 years. It turned out that her father had started the affair 20 years ago after going to play golf and having an affair with a woman who worked as a caddie. This woman was a single mother raising her son alone after a divorce. Ms. A said, "Ten years ago, my parents planned to move to the area where I live, but my father used his business as an excuse to send only my mother to move, while he continued living where he was." She expressed her anger, saying, "(My mother and I) had no idea about my father's affair. He perfectly maintained two households, spending weekends with my mother and using his own house like a model home."
Sending 10 million won a month to mistress... Using daughter's credit card to spend 100 million won
Ms. A was shocked again when she later checked her father's bank statements. Her father was sending several million won every month to his mistress, and this money was borrowed through a negative loan secured by their house. Moreover, on the day the mistress moved, he sent about 10 million won for the month, and on some days, he sent 3 million won under the name of 'electricity bill' and 2 million won as 'side dish expenses.'
Ms. A said, "My father gave money to his mistress continuously for about 15 years. Currently, he is bankrupt and barely living in a monthly rental room. He said his business was difficult and even sold the house and car." She expressed her deep sense of betrayal, saying, "When I told him I needed money for my wedding eight years ago, he slapped me." She continued, "He asked to borrow my credit card, and when I lent it to him, he used it for card cash advances. It seems he took about 100 million won over three years and spent it on his mistress." She exploded in anger, saying, "When I confronted the mistress, she shamelessly said, 'I used it all for side dishes and living expenses with your father.'"
Eventually, Ms. A's mother filed a civil lawsuit against the mistress for alienation of affection. Then, late at night, her father came with the mistress and loudly demanded, "Withdraw the alienation lawsuit. I withdrew 5 million won in cash, so let's end it with this." Ms. A said, "We won the alienation lawsuit and received 20 million won, and my parents got divorced." She sighed, "After that, my father came to see me looking half his face gone. He was diagnosed with stage 3 stomach cancer. It seemed like he was also abandoned by his mistress. With nowhere else to go, he came to me." She added, "I took care of him, but we sleep in separate rooms. I'm struggling with whether I should continue taking care of this father."
Most netizens who read this story suggested not taking care of the father. They left comments such as, "Not everyone who raised you is a parent," "Someone who abandoned you once will do it again," "If he wasn’t abandoned because he had no money, do you think he would have come looking for you?" "What's good about a dad like that?" "It's better not to have a cheating dad," "He must not be ashamed to be seen by his daughter," "What goes around comes around," "Be strong and kick him out," and "Think about your mother."
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