Unmarried Men and Women Say "No Need to Give Extra Wedding Money for Hotel Weddings"

"Luxurious Weddings Are the Choice of the Parties"
"It Is Desirable to Give as Much as You Receive"

As weddings that were postponed due to the COVID-19 pandemic begin to take place one by one, online debates over the amount of congratulatory money continue amid rapid inflation. There was even a post from a couple who held their wedding at a 5-star hotel expressing disappointment that "an acquaintance brought their partner and only gave 100,000 won as congratulatory money."

On the 6th, the marriage information company 'Bienarae' conducted a survey titled "Perceptions of Unmarried Men and Women on Major Issues Related to Acquaintances' Weddings" jointly with the remarriage-specialized marriage information company 'Only-U.' The survey was conducted from February 27 to March 4, targeting 518 unmarried men and women hoping to get married. The survey included questions about congratulatory money, perceptions of luxurious wedding venues such as hotels, common mistakes at weddings, and questions about guests.

Congratulatory Money Should Be 'Only as Much as Received'

According to the survey results, both unmarried men (34.4%) and women (36.3%) answered that the perception that "if an acquaintance holds a wedding at a luxurious hotel, they should give more congratulatory money than at a regular wedding hall" is incorrect.

The respondents, both unmarried men and women, recognized that it is desirable to give congratulatory money "only as much as they received."

Additionally, men answered that the amount varies depending on whether they attend the wedding, and they perceived that attending with a spouse should not affect the amount. Women, on the other hand, responded that they should give more congratulatory money when attending with a spouse, and that attendance itself should not affect the amount.

Second Reason for Marrying at a Luxury Hotel is 'Displaying Social Status,' What is the First?

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There was little difference between unmarried men and women in their perceptions of the reasons for holding weddings at luxurious places such as high-end hotels.

Both unmarried men and women ranked "Because marriage is a major life event (men 35.1%, women 37.5%)" as the number one reason. This was followed by "Displaying social status (men 34.8%, women 35.1%)."

Other responses included "Reflecting usual living standards (men 17.0%, women 16.2%)" and "Repaying those who have shown kindness (men 13.1%, women 11.2%)."

Lee Kyung, General Manager of Bienarae, said, "Combining these two survey results, holding a wedding at a luxurious venue such as a high-end hotel reflects the psychology that marriage is an important event in life and that they want to display their status through it. Therefore, many people perceive that guests do not necessarily have to give more congratulatory money just because the wedding is luxurious."

Most Common Mistakes at Weddings... Men: Excessive Drinking and Misconduct, Women: 'Giggling'

When asked about the most frequent mistakes made at acquaintances' weddings, 36.3% of men answered "excessive drinking and misconduct." This was followed by ▲giggling and chatting loudly (28.2%) ▲inappropriate attire (16.2%) ▲excessive displays of intimacy (12.3%).

For women, 37.1% answered "giggling and chatting loudly." This was followed by ▲excessive displays of intimacy (30.1%) ▲inappropriate attire (15.1%) ▲excessive drinking and misconduct (11.1%).

"I Feel Uncomfortable Around People Who Look Better Than Me"

When asked about "unwelcome guests as the main person at the wedding," men chose "people who usually cause stress (32.1%)." Next were ▲people who look better than themselves (25.1%) ▲former lovers or crushes (21.2%) ▲people with shabby appearances (17.3%).

Women most frequently pointed to "people who look better than themselves (37.1%)." This was followed by ▲former lovers or crushes (24.3%) ▲people who usually cause stress (18.9%) ▲people who are excessively dressed up (13.5%).

Regarding these results, a representative from Only-U added, "When attending an acquaintance's wedding, which is a major life event, one should always keep in mind the original purpose of being there."