Men cite "lack of attractiveness," women cite "missed opportunities"
as main reasons for remaining single until age 80
"Sense of deficiency" and "psychological anxiety"
are seen as the biggest drawbacks of lifelong singleness
A recent survey found that if individuals hoping to remarry remain single until the age of 80, men are more likely to attribute it to a "lack of personal attractiveness," while women are more likely to cite a "lack of opportunities."
According to a survey conducted by the remarriage information company Only-You and the matchmaking agency Bienarae from July 7 to July 13, targeting 536 men and women (268 men and 268 women) who wish to remarry, the most common reason men said they would attribute remaining single until 80 was "lack of attractiveness" (29.1%). For women, the top response was "missed opportunities" (28.4%). The survey was conducted via email and phone.
For men, the next most common responses were "missed opportunities" (26.1%), "lack of self-awareness" (19.0%), and "insufficient effort to remarry" (13.1%). For women, the order was "lack of self-awareness" (25.0%), "insufficient effort" (19.0%), and "lack of attractiveness" (14.9%).
Son Donggyu, CEO of Only-You, explained, "Many divorced women are very particular about their matchmaking partner's erotic capital, such as appearance, clothing, empathy, posture, conversation style, and manners, which can be burdensome for men." He added, "Women often keep rejecting potential partners in search of someone better, but end up not finding a more satisfying match and their remarriage efforts fizzle out."
When asked, "What do you think is the biggest drawback of remaining single until the age of 80?" 31.3% of men cited "a sense of deficiency." This was followed by "a monotonous life" (25.4%) and "inconvenience in daily life" (16.8%). For women, the top response was "psychological anxiety" (29.5%), followed by "a sense of deficiency" (24.6%) and "economic hardship" (21.2%). For both men and women, "loneliness" ranked fourth (men 13.1%, women 12.7%).
Lee Kyung, general manager at Bienarae, commented, "Men, who have a strong desire for offspring and need a wife who is also a companion, tend to feel dissatisfied with their situation if they fail to remarry. On the other hand, women, who need a supporter and a sense of security, may feel emotionally unstable like wild grass in a wasteland if they remain single until the age of 80, when remarriage opportunities have almost disappeared."
CEO Son added, "I often see divorced singles who, after failing in their attempts to remarry, continue to remain single. If you want to remarry but fail to achieve your goal, the sense of regret can be significant. Therefore, it is important to let go of excessive expectations and take proactive steps before it is too late in order to achieve your desired outcome."
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